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EYE ON THE PRIZE 

Don’t be fooled my dear, no two stories will be absolutely alike. Your journey may be similar to someone else’s but never will they be completely the same. 

Let no one take your joy or your triumph on the basis of what they have achieved or accomplished. Their experiences are theirs you can learn from them or choose to emulate them either way don’t look down  on yourself for the far you have come.

Material possessions aren’t the only measure of success, neither is family, success is what you as an individual strive to achieve. Could be quitting addiction, changing careers, starting a family, getting out of an abusive relationship etc. Whatever you deem success to be to you…..keep your eyes on the prize!!

No matter what, your best competitor is whom  you were yesterday, strive to be better. 

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2016 IN REVIEW

“Even at your highest seek Him” 
Almost done with this calendar, going in I had resolutions and strategies. Honestly most didn’t make it to the second week.I got an early lesson in keeping the faith, living a day at a time and focusing on happiness- seems too simplistic now, but then it was a daunting task. 

Accepting your position does not necessarily mean dwelling on it or claiming it. It simply means you are not blind to your predicaments (if any) or happiness (if so, keep it up) . In my case it was the previous. Taking charge of my situation worked for me, looking back it is almost like a fantasy novel. 

The damsel in distress, went and saved herself. The unhappy, burdened mother learnt to accept help where necessary and enjoy motherhood. The girlfriend that felt unappreciated took a closer look into the mirror and identified the log. The struggling student, well still struggles because postgraduate ain’t no joke! But now with a working support system…😃😃

This year has by far been one for the record books for me. I’m now aware of who I am, who I want to be and above all who I believe in. Truly He is Lord of Lords. As we Celebrate Christmas let Christ be born in your heart.  Remember it’s about the birth of Christ not Santa sliding down the chimney…..

AND I WILL TRY TO FIX YOU

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I was in a rut recently , in urgent need of help, had exhausted all quick fix options so decided to go through my phonebook.

Scrolling ……

There are those contacts that are just for ‘Hi ‘ and ‘bye’ not really situation fixers ……so pass.

There are those who are never in a position to help but always seek your help whenever they need it again …pass.

Those that ‘have it all figured out’ but cannot act on seconds notice, always doing well but always ‘not currently available’ … mmm pass.

Then there is that one you can call and sure as the sky is blue will drop everything and find solutions with you, but contacting them doesn’t come easy. The sort of people you reach out to when it’s def con 5 or something…..so do you reach them when all you need is a nudge and not moving planets?

After going through my contact list twice and realizing no one will solve my emergency for me but me, I remembered it  was once said , ‘Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part’ , but can we really anticipate all posible outcomes?

Only you can save you. The occasional help is well needed but in the end what needs to be done should and will be done and no one else will do it for you but you. It may sound too black and white….well maybe it is.

Don’t wait on someone else to fix your leaking roof or hide your nude. Do what you can and live to fight another day. My situation may have kicked me in the gut but it did not pin me down. Seek to find answers and with each small win take time to pat yourself on the shoulder.

No one will understand the struggle more clearly or appreciate the little triumphs more than you.

We all face challenges on a daily basis focus on dealing with yours everyone else has theirs …..

Ps. Keep your circle small. Rather one reliable source than a hundred on lookers. It’s better to smile alone than among fraudsters posing as friends.

SHIP WRECK

She was his now she is hers…..

It never occured to her that her belief in love was all  figment of her imagination. The trust that , ‘What you give, you will receive ten fold’…sweet, when you think of it , only what is received is sometimes insurmountable. Give with no prospects of receiving or at least give with no regard of receiving what you gave…..(makes sense right?)

He was hers and she carried him everywhere, wherever she was he wasn’t far behind if not beside her. They completed each others sentences and spoke the same language. He was it for her, without him she was all thorns and no rose.

Now she has to learn to be herself by herself and for herself. She has to learn to smell the roses alone and enjoy the world nontheless. She has to curve a route and follow through if she is to be better.

“What’s dead may never die”,  she knows what love feels like and what it doesn’t. Now she has to give it to herself and accept to receive it from herself……..

“Be happy alone, happy together or even both just don’t be the reason she/he wants to be happy alone. “- moh

FIND YOURSELF AND BE THAT

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Different shades same soul

Don’t hide behind ‘societal expectations’, behind career, family and other responsibilities. Don’t be confined. Free yourself, find yourself and explore the different things that make you you. In a universe so wide , a galaxy we can’t comprehend its bounds, a planet overly populated….find that which makes you relevant. That which makes you unique. Don’t hide behind the known. Dare to venture and explore the unknown. Who knows you just might bump into yourself…..

Careful the wreck you leave behind

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Thank you
Thank you for crossing my path
Thank you for letting me witness your glory, just enough to keep me interested. Then yanking it away like death in the night.
Thank you for walking me right down the path I ‘desired’ knowing it’s a facade. Knowing it was far from your reality but…why not ? Why not sample the ‘deserted road’? Who knows it just might spring new light….right?

Thankyou for the clarification. No , I don’t desire approval rather acceptance. Don’t desire to be deceived . Thankyou for the hurt, too bad I chose the exit before the water works debut.

Thank you I am better despite of you not because of you. Thankyou my heart left intact, scratched but fine.

Lets see how well reversed roles play out. Careful not to be schooled by the wreck you leave in your wake.

WHERE IS THE ADVENTURE

Whatever happened to walking up to a girl and saying ‘Hi’ . A simple gesture towards getting to know each other/ blowing someone off …now before the ‘hi’ which is now deemed ‘lame’ one goes through the torture of unwinding ones life click by click. I find it rather overwhelming, getting all the information dropped like a pile of rock. Within minutes one has gone through all the levels of a relationship, curiosity, ten minutes later ‘I think I like this one’…20 minutes ‘oh wait , this is definitely it’ by the time an hour is up you are broken up and never want to here from that person ever again.

Why the rush? A simple ‘hi’ offline is much more enjoyable if you ask me. Hiding behind a keyboard may seem smart and ‘broaden your horizon’ but in the same click your significant other might be outside enjoying the sunset alone.

Live alittle. Let technology be your tool not make you a tool.