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I chose you and you chose me

Everyday I choose you and pray you choose me

It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, it’s however you and I always

I choose you, through smiles and tears and hope you choose me……



God gave me you for the ups and downs

I carry you in my heart
Carry you every where
With every stride and every challenge
Your presence encourages me

I’m glad you chose me
Glad you came to me
Through you I have learnt to love
And love with every fibre of me

Now I can’t imagine a universe we don’t meet
A time I’m not yours and you’re not mine
Cursed be the day we depart from each other
Blessed be the eternity we spend

Mama loves you, adores you and would give up everything to see you smile and live free for all of time.


Love unconditional

I have read the books,seen the movies and fantasized the heart warming play by play of a fairy tale. Only, the laid down scenes don’t really happen in real life. Or if they do I ought to shift continents let alone countries to get to where it actually happens. All that goes into the making of a fairy tale is what should be told,not just the over priced ceremonies and no talk of what happens in the “happily ever after”.
Someone should do a sequel to all the fairy tales, what goes into making a union “happily ever after ” just whisking her off into the horizon doesn’t help me and my kind much. I’m quite interested in the play by play of this perpetual happiness.
Am sure a kiss from my true love will serve for a while but once the effects of the tumbling economy sets in and the need to look cool and chic then add pressure to be happy ever after,no way a kiss holds everything together.
Keeping each other is a daily commitment, don’t look at those on the streets holding hands, while behind closed doors hand holding turns to fist fights. Don’t admire those sharing a spoon at the restaurant for being too in love. Perhaps he is just on too short a leash and secretly dreams of jumming the fork down her throat. Appearances decieve, clothes and a smile hide wonders untold but sometimes…. Every now and then you meet the one couple that redeems the faith in most.
The one couple that stuck by each other, groomed and built something noticeable, something worthwhile and like everything else under the sun, no good deed goes unpunished. They took the hits and the low blows, went through it as coal and emerged as diamonds only to face prying eyes and itchy fingers of the lazy,who don’t want to put in the work but look forward to the perks.
So again, what entails happily ever after?
Enjoying the fruits of your labour together or sharing with whatever other title itchy fingers hold. Acting like it’s acceptable because it’s now common.
No, keep your hands of my art. If they took the time to customize each other to fit each other, there is absolutely no room for a downgrade. Find your own, build your own or embrace the solitude and happiness of keeping a bunch of cats.
To those diligently waiting on their “Once upon a time…. ” keep in mind the forest has wolves and the lady giving you directions might just be your downfall. It’s a journey, one that is worth it with the right partner. At the finish line, be sure to be armed appropriately to guard your “happily ever after “.

5 simple rules for a good night sleep

Enjoy loving and being loved
Enjoy loving and being loved

Enjoy your Sex

It doesn’t matter if you are 22, 38 or 75. Nobody should be confined in a sexually dissatisfying relationship. Don’t be rigid about it, teach your mate what you love, it’s called making love for a reason, have fun and connect with each other, and eventually break out the freak within, after that the evening /weekend stroll will be so relaxing


Be confident that you are the one. Be confident in what you share and let each other thrive within and without your union. I get the “two become one” phrase but that doesn’t mean being conjoint at the hip. Keep a piece of yourself to yourself, do the things you loved to do before the union, maybe include your partner , but be confident that as you keep making yourself happy, your partner is at ease with you doing you. Create an environment where it is cool for him to go out with the boys without you going all CIA on his stuff, and you can enjoy your book club without him thinking its code for crazy night out with God knows who.

Chase your goals and dream

Strive to accomplish your life goals and dreams. Just because you are bound by love, or whatever you convince yourself is joining you, do not mean you should give up on your dreams. It would be damn near magical if you shared your experiences with the love of your life, find that balance where you achieve it all next to each other, then they won’t be stories told but experiences shared.

You are not a jar of nutella

No one is capable of being perfect all the time. You cannot please everyone, sometimes even pleasing yourself is a problem. So love the flaws in each other and embrace the diversity in your union. Black Pepper is hot and to some it’s sweeter than honey. So learn to accommodate and to appreciate the beauty in being different. Keep around a jar of nutella for when it gets to rough. That stuff solves all problems……

And lastly,

Always remember why you chose each other, challenges will always be there, keep in mind why he/she is the one


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I am sitting here awestruck by everything around me. All that I have been so blessed, to see and witness, I am simply in love with my Motherland, in love with my future.

Children playing and singing happily oblivious of the complexities of life, women gathered around beauty parlors sharing the hottest tittle-tattle of the time in hushed tones, and the men, well the men are behind the sign “MEN AT WORK”. I wonder if there is ever any work in progress behind the signs…….

But before I digress…..

I love the fact that my people struggle to make an honest living. I love their will to push through every challenge, get up after every knock-down and forge further ahead. Sure, we get overwhelmed from time to time, but we are never broken, we may be bent, but certainly never broken.

My people are full of diversity, and my land is limitless with opportunity for those who dare to dream, and then get up and chase their dreams. Sit back and wait for handouts but after I catch my dreams, the handout I give you will be but a drop from my ocean.

I love my land and I Love my people, But I want my people to change their way of thinking and want more from life, demand more from the all so beautiful and breath taking land that we have been abundantly blessed with. It breaks my heart that due to ignorance, misfortune, marginalization or retrogressive cultures, children die from treatable diseases, women die during childbirth and men slaughter each other for rights to a seasonal river.

My Land is Damn Beautiful, and my People are Freaking Amazing, impossible not to love. I am a Patriot, I love my country and I love its entire people. If we all could, in each of our own different way, work for the growth of self, and each other, transcending kinship and tribal lines, we would move miles in just one day.

Our hills and valleys are beautiful, but no one wants to see them if they are tainted by our blood. The FAMOUS BIG FIVE thrive here but if we don’t drive them to extinction with our poaching, we finish them by encroaching their habitat.

Nothing is beyond our grasp; the smile on our children’s faces is worth preserving, everything is worth Preserving. I am signed up, I need another 40million people to do this with me.


(Forever a patriot)

East or West....
East or West….